Difficult to explain,all i am asking for is a god fearing gentleman.A good human being. Nothing could be better if as a couple he follow the ways writen in quran (how to treat a wife) and i follow the same.it seems to be an ideal relationship.insha allah . A simple and a solvent man .Mostly who believes from the soul and does not need to rule his women with the mind but woo her with his actions ,AKHLAQ and from his heart.which is where allah lives by. Someone who has been raised with defining manners ( not neccesary though bcoz some poeple have their own identities and thier own values.) i respect individual independance irrespective of his surroundings.you could be yourself without the influence of people around you. someone who knows how to laugh whole heartedly through the turbulent times of this life. I seek what most people seek.truth, answers,fidelity and trust. You dont have to be pleasant to the world as long as you are pleasant to my eyes.let me quote the universal saying here ...as beauty lies in the eyes of beholder. ( for a mother an ugliest kid is the most beautiful thing happened to her on earth .she knows no comparison.no one seems to be as adorable as her own children) I belive no one on the earth is ugly ..(it is just an example to make my point more clear) So let the beauty of what you love be what you do. Race,caste, poor is no issue for me as long as you are a good muslim and a good human being.i dont understand these wordI guess nobody has hold on these things .It is a matter of chance not the choice. nobody wants to be born poor or ugly.but what you are as a person is matter of choice not the chance. so watch youself ,watch your actions ,your behaviuor because only you have hold on them nobody else. Birth,death and marriage are set by allah and i trust in his choice.I am in the process to uncover his choices for me.but it wont be difficult to spot him trust me.The signs will be apparent and clearly be manifested in his speech and mannerism. I am looking for somone with a zest for life,with a spark in his eyes. A lively person with a sharp wit .somone who can hold a conversation.who has a good intellect.straight forward person with no frills someone who wants to be a part of a very happy family and one who will strengthen the family bond with love and respect. I want eye to eye on aspects of religion and hopefully on culture in a way that makes me feel he's my better half. Compatibility in this respect and on this level takes a lot of issues and hurdles off the table, gives peace of mind, and makes for a promising prospect. It also goes a long way having synchronized plans of how to lead the way with establishing a family --in my language it's compatibility . Lastly somone with a good sense of humour to seal the package... P.S I WANT TO GROW WITH YOU NOT ONLY OLDER BUT HAPPIER AND THE HAPPEIST WITH EACH OTHER WITH THE PASSAGE OF TIME.(evreybody grows older with each other willingly or unwillingly anyways) i hve observed some couples take each other for granted after somtime of marraige .the FIZZ goes off in the relationship which makes me sad . I am sure those of you who are reading this never thought would actualy one day be looking for a companion over the internet.I would have laughed if somone told me i would be doing this years ago. i guess that should be it If this much doesnt convince you ,then i need to take a course in creative writing and try again. Keep me in your duas dudes. May allah bless us whatever is best for us.(aameen) All the very best who so ever is searching for the right things in his life ......cheeers . .