We both were paid members. It was December 19 ending. She reached out to me. Since it was December end I had already planned my visit back to my hometown. That's how we met followed by family meeting and things just progressed rapidly from there. Suggestions : a) Don't just keep lingering around, decide a specific time frame for things to work out. This way it would eliminate non-serious candidates. and save you a lot of time b)If things look promising involve families as quickly as possible c)Most Important: Its not an online shopping site / not a dating site. Don't get lost.